Confidence is extremely tricky & one of those characteristics that you either have or don’t have.
Trying to pass off other characteristics as confidence isn’t going to cut it. Only serves to emphasise how insecure you are.
We accentuate characteristics that appear to be confident but are nothing more than a sham.
Enthusiasm, grandstanding, and even aggression are all things we strive for.
We forget that true confidence isn’t loud or brash. True confidence is quiet and subtle; it is patient rather than rash.
It’s the kind of quality that’s quietly available when you need it, rather than something you have to flaunt in front of everyone to prove you have.
Confidence is not something we are born with, but it is something that everyone can achieve.
True confidence stems from the realisation that you have intrinsic worth and that you don’t need others to prove it to you.
Self-esteem isn’t a basic requirement like food or water, but it is a supplement that may either significantly improve your life or keep you stunted and unhappy.
You can only allow in as much love from the outside as you feel on the inside, after all. If you don’t feel good about yourself, you’ll never believe that someone else can love you, and you’ll be waiting for the bubble to burst, for the woman you care for, validating your belief that you’re unlovable.
Qualities That Makes you a Confident Partner
Make Woman Feel At Ease
It’s usually a good touch to get over your own nerves to put your date at rest.
However, making a woman feel at ease extends beyond the first date. It also helps to be consistent in your behaviour so she knows what to expect from you.
You don’t have to be available 24 hours a day, but you should let her know that work will be hectic next week, so she won’t hear from you as often.
Not Afraid To Get Personal
You can date someone for a few weeks and merely talk about the weather, favourite movies, and TV series, but if you want a lasting, happy relationship, you’ll have to delve deeper at some point.
You’ll have to get personal at some point.
Confident guys aren’t scared to express their more vulnerable, intimate side, and they know when it’s appropriate to do so.
Getting personal involves sharing your future ambitions and dreams, as well as your concerns, previous disappointments, and traumas, in a way that allows the other person to see you for who you truly are.
You own your confidence and know how to convey it in a healthy, productive way that will only deepen your connection.
Kindness and confidence go hand in hand.
When you have equal amounts of authority, presence, and warmth, you have no fear of your kindness being misinterpreted as weakness and no qualms about treating others well.
Make Strong Eye Contact
Looking into someone’s eyes has a particular, almost intimate quality to it.
Confident men do not avoid it; rather, they meet people’s gaze and feel at ease holding it.
Have an Open Mind
Confident men can explore new ideas without becoming protective or territorial, which opens up a world of possibilities and experiences for them.
Listen More Than Talk
Excessive talking is an indication of arrogance and insecurity. For two reasons, listening more than speaking exudes confidence.
1) You’re comfortable with your word choices and don’t feel compelled to speak much.
2) You’re self-assured enough to let the other person talk without interrupting. Avoid being too quiet; if you don’t speak up sufficiently, you’ll come across as timid or terrified. Say only what is necessary to convey your point.
Never Avoid Important Conversations
A confident man recognises that no problem can be solved unless it is faced, whether it be between family members or in a relationship.
Avoiding issues will merely postpone the inevitable while also increasing the risk of things getting worse.
There is a distinction to be made between picking your fights and avoiding conflict entirely.
Simple, straightforward, and sensible – but frequently neglected.
A confident man will treat everyone around him with respect.
He will not be condescending or dismissive of anyone, regardless of their IQ or professional status.
‘A man of quality is not scared of equality,’ as the proverb goes.
Comfortable In Your Skin
Being confident also entails being at ease in your own flesh, warts and all.
As a result, confident men don’t pretend to be someone they aren’t, and they certainly don’t pretend to be more affluent, cultured, or smart than anyone else.
It’s Ok To Be Nervous
Being confident isn’t the same as being fearless.
We make every effort not to say anything you’ll regret, and to generate a positive first impression that will last a lifetime.
Confidence comes from knowing that, no matter how frightened you are, you’ll let your date see you for who you truly are.
There’s no need to put on a show or influence her perception of you.
It’s just you, nervousness included. Knowing that she doesn’t have to like you gives you real confidence.